Aug-25-2020, 05:08 AM
(This post was last modified: Aug-25-2020, 05:08 AM by MysticLord.)
With problems of motivation, you need to sit and think about what YOU really need - not what others expect of you, but what is best for you. It often takes a lot of suffering to put your previously held beliefs (often misconceptions) in perspective. No one likes a boring suburban life as much as a man being shelled in a foxhole.
Alternately, consider what you DON'T need. Do you not like:
Arrange your life so you can live well while avoiding the things you loathe.
Once you know what you need, take the simplest and most direct path to get there. Sometimes this is counter-intuitive - my older brother joined the military at 17, and after he got out he worked for the post office for 8 years. In 8 more years - at 38 - he'll be able to retire with a full pension and do exactly what he wants for the rest of his life. He mostly wants to play drums in his garage and ride motorcycles, and he arranged his life so that he'll be able to do this as much as possible.
I, for instance, decided that I really don't like being around people and I am sick and tired of electronics and gadgets and distractions, so I decided that I want to live in the middle of nowhere, grow organic foods, raise goats, and live with a stinky hippy wife and have lots of kids. I took the simplest, most direct path to get there - went to community college for 2 and a half years, took literally every class they had on CS, CIS, Electronics; and as many math classes as I could handle - and I am well prepared to be ankle deep in goat poop three years from now.
If you have any obligations you consider legitimate (family, nation, religion, lack of religion, ethnic group, political beliefs, social bonds, community), then think about that when you make your decisions too.
Alternately, consider what you DON'T need. Do you not like:
- people?
- being alone?
- driving?
- loud noise?
- sitting still?
- being outside?
- being around people you have nothing in common with?
- work?
- paying child support?
- being inside?
Arrange your life so you can live well while avoiding the things you loathe.
Once you know what you need, take the simplest and most direct path to get there. Sometimes this is counter-intuitive - my older brother joined the military at 17, and after he got out he worked for the post office for 8 years. In 8 more years - at 38 - he'll be able to retire with a full pension and do exactly what he wants for the rest of his life. He mostly wants to play drums in his garage and ride motorcycles, and he arranged his life so that he'll be able to do this as much as possible.
I, for instance, decided that I really don't like being around people and I am sick and tired of electronics and gadgets and distractions, so I decided that I want to live in the middle of nowhere, grow organic foods, raise goats, and live with a stinky hippy wife and have lots of kids. I took the simplest, most direct path to get there - went to community college for 2 and a half years, took literally every class they had on CS, CIS, Electronics; and as many math classes as I could handle - and I am well prepared to be ankle deep in goat poop three years from now.
If you have any obligations you consider legitimate (family, nation, religion, lack of religion, ethnic group, political beliefs, social bonds, community), then think about that when you make your decisions too.